At its core, cheating is about lying to your partner. Being lied to by the person we trust the most is one of the most damaging and painful experiences that humans can experience.
The foundation of any close relationship is trust. Without trust, there is no real intimacy in a relationship. Since cheating involves lying, it destroys trust and therefore damages the foundation of the relationship.
Many LGBTQ+ people have experienced betrayal when their families or classmates rejected them simply for being themselves. This history can make the experience of betrayal in our adult relationships even more difficult to manage.
Our LGBTQ+ therapists will help you and your partner turn towards each other in your hurt feelings rather than further away. We will teach you how to have difficult conversations in a way that allows both of you to be heard and seen. Being heard is essential for healing.
How Our Gay Therapists Can Help Repair Your LGBTQ+ Relationship After Infidelity
Every day we guide couples from the experience of hurt, mistrust, and anger into the process of repair and greater closeness. We often find that the crisis of betrayal can serve as a catalyst, bringing couples to an intimacy that they have never experienced before.
Our LGBTQ+ therapists will work with couples to learn:
- How to repair your LGBTQ+ relationship after cheating.
- How to focus more on each other instead of pulling away.
- How to improve communication and listening skills.
- How to listen to your partner without getting defensive.
- How to talk to your partner without attacking or criticizing.
- How to manage LGBTQ+ open relationships.
- How to manage anxiety in new LGBTQ+ relationships when it comes to cheating
For LGBTQ+ couples who want to heal their relationships after an affair, there is good reason to be hopeful. Most research reveals that two-thirds of heterosexual couples will remain together after an affair. While the research on this topic among LGBTQ+ couples is limited, most indicate that gay couples are even more likely to recover from affairs.
Recovery, however, doesn’t happen by itself. Our LGBTQ+ therapists are experts in compassionately leading you through this repair process. Give us a call — you can usually get an appointment within a day or two!
Why Choose The Gay Therapy Center?
Repairing distrust in relationships requires deep listening and talking. Our LGBTQ+ therapists understand that shame and blame are not the best way for couples to recover from infidelity.
Our job is to help you reestablish trust and safety in the relationship. We show each partner how to share the most vulnerable parts of themselves in a way that feels good and permanently establishes a new habit of communicating.
While all human relationships share many similarities and areas of conflict, our lives are also impacted by culture. The LGBTQ+ community does have a unique culture based on its history of being outside of the mainstream majority. Therapists at the Gay Therapy Center are all members of the LGBTQ+ community. They are deeply committed to providing culturally aware services designed for our community because they are a part of the community.
“Thanks for helping us work through our major issues, this has saved our relationship and strengthened our communication and commitment to one another.”
— Client feedback
Find A LGBTQ+ Or Gay Infidelity Therapist Near You
We provide both online and in-office LGBTQ+ infidelity therapy services. We are located in the following cities:
- New York LGBTQ+ Therapists
- Los Angeles LGBTQ+ Therapists
- San Francisco LGBTQ+ Therapists
- Washington, D.C LGBTQ+ Therapists
Schedule to book your free 15-minute consultation with one of our LGBTQ+ therapists today!
Frequently Asked Questions
1. Is LGBTQ+ infidelity therapy expensive?
Our LGBTQ+ infidelity therapy fees begin at $185 per 50-minute session, and you can find more information about our therapy fees and insurance here.
2. What if my partner doesn’t want to be involved in the therapy process?
If your partner is unwilling to dialogue with you about infidelity then your options may be limited. Humans heal relationships through conversation. You may want to do some individual therapy to help you decide what to do. And it is possible that you can learn some new communication skills in therapy that you can bring back to your relationship, which may jump start more effective communication with your partner.
Schedule a free initial phone consultation with us to get matched with a therapist that is right for you.
3. What counts as infidelity in a LGBTQ+ relationship?
What counts as infidelity will be different depending on the couple, but the bottom line is, if you are lying to your partner about your interactions with others then it can be considered infidelity. Emotional affairs, sexual affairs, sexting, and secret hook ups can all be examples of infidelity.
While sex may or may not cause hurt feelings, lying always does. Trust is the cornerstone of good relationships and lying erodes trust and we’re here to help you build that trust.
4. How can we manage an open LGBTQ+ relationship without a feeling the other is being unfaithful?
A successful open relationship requires ongoing, honest conversations about what guidelines work for each of you. You’ll need advanced communication skills in order to process some of the inevitable hurts along the way.