Have You Lost Trust In
Have you been feeling disconnected from your partner or spouse? Do you miss having safe, genuine, intimate communication? Are you worried that you’re growing apart from each other, having less sex or no sex at all, and don’t know how to bridge the physical and emotional gap?
Perhaps your relationship has suffered from an affair, and you don’t know if it’s possible to rebuild that trust again. Maybe your definition of infidelity differs from your partner’s – perhaps he thinks that talking to other men on dating apps, even without actually meeting anyone, isn’t a breach of his commitment to you. Or it could be that one of you may have expressed a desire for an open relationship, but you can’t negotiate terms you are both comfortable with. Conversely, perhaps one partner has violated the already-existing terms of the open relationship, and now you don’t know where you stand.
At this point, it probably feels like no matter what you try to do to fix your relationship issues, nothing works. You likely feel stuck and uncertain about your future together. And although you truly want to repair your relationship, you don’t know where to start. All you want is to just feel heard again and have everything else fall back into place.
These Issues Happen To Many Gay Couples
From infidelity to open relationship conflicts, whatever issues your relationship is experiencing, chances are it’s hardly unusual. The ability to advocate for ourselves peacefully is a skill we aren’t naturally born with, or one that most of us were never taught.
In many cases, conflicts occur as a result of poor communication. Moreover, when you feel betrayed, guilty, or ashamed, the right words to describe your feelings can be even harder to find. This discord makes it feel like the wedge in the relationship only grows wider.
Good communication is necessary for any healthy relationship: especially when navigating open relationships, which require a more advanced level. We know that “Don’t ask, don’t tell” doesn’t work in the military, but it especially doesn’t work for open relationships. Negotiating terms and conditions require a new level of vulnerability that many couples aren’t prepared for. The couples that experience difficulties in this department may find that the issue could have been avoided had they been more honest from the beginning. Not all couples are able to handle the complexities of open relationships, but many find renewed possibilities when they establish new levels of communication through LGBTQ couples counseling.
“We use the tools you teach us all the time in our relationship and friendships.” — Client feedback
Unfortunately, the level of toxic masculinity in our culture can make it difficult to open up about feelings. Many gay people carry internalized shame or baggage from previous relationships that make vulnerability even more complicated. As the communication barriers widen, many couples find themselves fighting more, shoving issues under the rug, experiencing anxiousness, or living in a sexless partnership.
Fortunately, you don’t have to live this way forever – we are counselors and therapists who specialize in LGBTQ couples counseling and can help you and your partner find your way again. Last year, over 60 million couples sought therapy to heal their relationships. You are not alone in your struggle.
Restore Your Relationship With Gay Couples Counseling
Underlying most conflicts are vulnerable emotions. We teach you how to identify those feelings in yourself and your partner and how to talk about difficult subjects in ways that bring you closer rather than push you further apart. Communication is the biggest factor in restoring stressful relationships, as it can benefit your partnership not only at home, but in all aspects of your lives. In addition, productive communication is a key factor in rebuilding a healthy, active sex life.
Our practice is results-oriented and skills-based. We will begin by teaching you new communication skills. While we may address how your childhood experiences may have influenced your ability to love as an adult, the main focus will be on who you are today.
“Loved it. I learned a lot about my partner and was taught how to understand him better. I never would have been able to accomplish any of this on my own!” — Recent Client Feedback
All of our counselors are licensed therapists, with an expertise in LGBTQ counseling, and all of them identify as LGBTQ. We believe that no one understands the LGBTQ community like other members of the LGBTQ community. You will quickly find that we are best-equipped to help you because we have lived through similar experiences. Our judgment and shame-free spaces are the perfect place to start that journey toward healing and restoration.
There is no algorithm to match you with a counselor: we pair you based on personality and our “sense” of you and your unique needs during the phone call. We have over thirty therapists with various specialized skillsets. No matter what you and your partner are going through, we have someone who can help you accomplish better communication and intimacy in your relationship.
With the help of therapy, deeper communication and renewed intimacy is possible. You can have renewed hope for your future with your partner. You can feel validated, understood, seen, and heard for who you really are.
“Kyle was fantastic. He really improved our marriage.”
— Unsolicited client feedback
Adam D. Blum, founder of the Gay Therapy Center, discusses the process of improving communication and intimacy for couples.
View time: 2:45 min.
“Thanks for helping us work through our major issues, this has saved our relationship and strengthened our communication and commitment to one another.” — Client feedback
You May Have Some Concerns About Gay Couples Counseling
I don’t want to be blamed for something I did in the past.
Our practice is a “blame-free” zone. We focus on vulnerability and building communication skills, not blaming or shaming anyone. If you have done something that has caused shame, this is the perfect opportunity to work through those feelings and move past them.
Doesn’t gay couples therapy mean the relationship is over?
Not at all! Our communication skills have proven their value in many testimonials from couples that didn’t know that such new levels of intimacy were possible. Engaging in therapy means that you are committed to the health of your relationship, which runs contrary to it being over. Therapy gives you the chance to repair your relationship and make it stronger than ever.
Won’t talking about it just make me feel worse?
It can be difficult to share the most intimate parts of your life with someone you don’t know. But we see counseling as relationship enhancement, and so do many of our clients. Better communication leads to increased trust, better sex, and greater happiness overall, so getting your feelings out on the table is a worthwhile investment. In fact, after their sessions, many couples go out for dinner. They treat the counseling session as a kind of “date night.”
Schedule Your Session For Gay Couples Counseling
If you are ready to repair your relationship, we offer a free 15-minute consult over the phone. With our diverse range of locations and flexible evening and weekend hours, we make the process of finding a couple’s counselor easy.