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Nicholas, LGBTQ Therapist in New York

Nicholas, LGBTQ Therapist in New YorkPronouns, He, Him
License: LCSW

How many times have you said, “Are you even listening to me?” or “That’s not what I’m saying!” during a conflict?

Working with individuals, couples, and families, I use techniques that identify the link between thoughts and behaviors and better communication. I believe communication is the single most important ingredient to connection, including connection to each other, society, and ourselves.

Connection is a big word within our community. So many of us have felt isolated, ostracized, misunderstood, and unvalued as LGBTQ people. The world we live in is still not designed for us. So how do we cope? My hope is that I can be a co-pilot on your journey for healthy coping and self-discovery.

Throughout my professional career I have always focused on growth. I am a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and a Certified Grief Counselor. With this post-graduate knowledge, I have been able to see life through a different lens.

If any of this rings true to you or you are looking to explore ways to increase feelings of strength, hope, or empowerment, reach out for a consultation.

Building connection through the journey of my own therapeutic relationship has changed my life. I’d be honored to be a part of yours.

Q&A with Nicholas

Therapists often talk about self-compassion. How do you practice being kind to yourself?
I forgot where I heard this, but it was genius. Have a picture of your younger self readily available. Whenever negative self-talk creeps in, imagine saying those words to that child in the picture. Stops you right in your tracks.

What helps you unwind and relax?
Lets be real- it’s Netflix.

What’s your go-to coping skill when you’re overwhelmed?
Acknowledging it out loud. Even if it’s just to myself, putting words to feelings is powerful.

What’s one thing you wish more people understood about the importance of mental health maintenance?
Burnout is REAL. It’s not just some buzz word to use when you’re feeling overwhelmed. It can really do a number on your overall wellbeing when you don’t pay attention to your own mental health needs.

In therapy, we often discuss coping strategies. What’s a healthy coping mechanism that works for you?
Leaning on my support system. Everyone needs one!

Share a book or resource that has significantly influenced your perspective on mental health:
Not shaped, but reinforced. “The Woman in Me” by Britney Spears. It shows what behaviors society deems “crazy” are more often very real trauma responses. Plus, who doesn’t love some Britney?

How do you handle moments of self-doubt or insecurity?
As scary as it feels, I push through those moments. By pulling from past experiences where I’ve felt that way and it’s worked out, it becomes more believable to myself that I can accomplish something. It always builds confidence after.

In therapy, we explore emotions. Which emotions do you notice people struggling with the most?
Fear and anxiety. It’s so universal and manifests in every life area.

What’s the most rewarding aspect of therapy for you, as a therapist?
Being a passenger on the ride to someone else’s success.

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