Finding peace within ourselves and calming the anxious mind so that we have access to our own solutions is what most of us need in our daily lives. When you’re feeling stressed out, depressed, anxious or confused, it’s great to have someone you trust to help you through it. Assisting my LGBTQ clients live healthier, happier lives has been a privilege and a real joy for me in my many years as a therapist in West Hollywood. There is something special about helping “our own” thrive.
Therapy is such a personal experience and finding the right fit with a therapist is the first step in making positive change in your life. My commitment has always been to be as objective and open as possible while being very curious about my client’s individual experiences. I hear from clients that they do not like a “blank slate” therapist who “just sits there” and I tend to agree. I am interactive and solution oriented and I ask a lot of questions but I also know the power of silence and just being with another human when they are in pain. Striking a balance between the two is much of what the work together is about. I think a good laugh and a good cry and a good silence all have their place in therapy and in life.
As an LCSW, I was trained to never assume anything about people and to explore race, class, gender, sexual orientation, cultural and spiritual issues. My work has attracted a wide diversity of clients and that is just how I like it. Over the years I have worked with clients on coming out, trans transitioning, coping with HIV, being an LGBTQ person of color, negotiating open relationships and learning communication, anger management, distress tolerance and self-soothing skills. I help gay couples who are adopting children or going through surrogacy or who are building or dissolving a relationship. Much of my work in the LGBTQ community has been helping clients cultivate self-esteem and build a sense of community and support to cope with the loneliness that so many face in a big city like Los Angeles.
When I was a wide-eyed 20-something, I went into therapy for the first time to get help coming out. I found a therapist who not only accepted and understood me but eventually encouraged me to go back to graduate school and become a therapist. The decision to risk being vulnerable and go into therapy changed my life for the better in every possible way and still does to this day. I believe strongly in the power of two people in a room working together to make things better. How that turns out is exciting everytime!