Rating Your Inner Critic
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I wake up at night worried about the mistakes that I made the day before.
I replay conversations after I’ve had them to see what I’ve done wrong.
I don’t like the way my clothes look on me.
When I’m with other people, I wonder if they’re critical of me.
I’m cautious about trying anything new because I’m afraid of looking foolish.
I’m afraid people will laugh at me.
I worry about what other people think.
I often feel inferior to other people.
I wish I had a more attractive body.
When I look in the mirror, I check to see what’s wrong with me.
When I read over something I’ve just written, I’m not satisfied with it.
I’m afraid that there’s something basically wrong with me.
I wonder what other people would think of me if they really knew what I was like underneath.
I compare myself with other people.
I seem to attract judgmental people.
I question my decisions after I have made them and think that I might have done better.
When I say ‘No’ I feel guilty.
When I take a test like this, I’m sure that I don’t do as well as other people.
I avoid taking risks if I can help it.
When I think about self-improvement I feel that there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed.
Total your points:______________
Scores of 1 – 45: Small Inner Critic
Scores of 46 – 75: Medium-Sized Critic
Scores of 76 – 100: Very Strong Inner Critic
–from Embracing Your Inner Critic, Hal & Sidra Stone
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