Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Open Relationships:  What Works?

Over 70 men have shared their experiences in the comments section of this post.

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I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

The biggest fear any human being has in a relationship is the fear that he'll be dropped.  You are playing with this powerful force when you open the relationship. Can you respect the power of this force?

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Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Doing something the same way over and over again can make anything dull.

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What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement

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6 Things You Can Learn From Kinky LGBTQ Couples

6 Things You Can Learn From Kinky LGBTQ Couples

Not everyone is kinky. But kinky people know a lot about sex, and we can all learn from some of their best practices.

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The Secret to a Better Gay Sex Life

The Secret to a Better Gay Sex Life

Here’s the big secret to better gay sex:

Be more selfish.

You don’t hear that a lot.

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How To Spice Up a Gay Relationship: Video Blog

How To Spice Up a Gay Relationship: Video Blog

This 4-minute video blog will help you realize that your sexual fantasies aren't that weird.

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Why Gay Men Love Sex

Orgasm may be one of the only times we are fully present in the moment.

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Monogamy and Gay Men: The Radio Interview

Here's an audio recording of a radio interview I did with Randol White on Equality Radio, on the subject of monogamy and gay men.

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How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

Do you and your man know how to talk about difficult subjects and end up closer at the end of the conversation rather than further apart? If you open your relationship before you have developed this skill you could be headed for trouble.

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Sex Addiction in the Digital Age: What's Too Much?

Sex Addiction in the Digital Age:  What's Too Much?

It’s getting easier to get laid. 

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When You Want More Gay Sex Than He Does

When You Want More Gay Sex Than He Does

In a long term relationship it’s likely that one of you will want sex more frequently than the other. This can create uncomfortable conflicts. Here are some ideas that can help you manage your differences.

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The Fear of Bisexuality

Bisexuality doesn’t get as much attention as other sexual orientations. Even lesbian and gay people don’t often think about what it is like to be bisexual.

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Queer Identity: Finding a Label (or not) and Possibly, a Tribe

Queer Identity: Finding a Label (or not) and Possibly, a Tribe

How do you identify yourself?

Lesbian, dyke, gay, bisexual?

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So the guy you like just told you he’s HIV-positive — Now what?

So the guy you like just told you he’s HIV-positive — Now what?

You’re on cloud nine. He’s hot. The chemistry is right. The conversation flows. There’s nothing about him that annoys you. It’s so rare to find a mate with that perfect mix that you wonder what the catch is. Then–wham!–he tells you he’s HIV-positive.

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When Is Sex Out of Control?

When Is Sex Out of Control?

One key thing to remember is that out of control or addictive sexual behaviors aren't actually about sex.

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Lesbians and Casual Sex: Can We Leave the U-Haul Behind?

Lesbians and Casual Sex: Can We Leave the U-Haul Behind?

The joke about what lesbians bring on the second date—a U-Haul—might be a stereotype, but it speaks to a truth about lesbian dating: Many women move quickly to selecting a china pattern before they have even met each others’ cats.

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