Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Each time we make that decision to be “discrete”, somewhere deep in our psyche we are reinforcing our belief that we are “less than”. 

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Do You Choose Mean Gay Guys?

Do You Choose Mean Gay Guys?

We often are drawn to unkind people because our parents weren’t so kind to us.  In other words, they feel familiar.

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Getting Depressed Around the Holidays

Getting Depressed Around the Holidays

It sucks, especially when the commercials make it look like everyone else is having a good time.

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Gay Men and Perfectionism

 Gay Men and Perfectionism

Being perfect is one way to manage being an outsider in your own family, school, city, or country.

Feeling like an outsider is a pretty typical experience for young gay people. And too often they can also feel like they are gross, disgusting, or sick. It can be quite humiliating to grow up gay.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

Tapping into your inner baby is a really useful tool in managing life’s challenges.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

This Gay Therapist Says: Blaming Your Parents: Not Good

Here’s my perspective on this.

Blaming parents: not good.

Avoiding the knowledge of how your parents impacted your life: also not good.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

How Gay and Lesbian Couples Can Stop Fighting

When you fight with your partner it can feel like he or she is the enemy.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

LGBT Counseling: How We Heal From the Tough Stuff

Grieving is nature's built-in healing technique. It comes naturally to elephants and other mammals, but sometimes the big human brain gets in its way.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Growing up a Gay Mormon

Growing up a Gay Mormon

Psychotherapist Wyatt Darling, MFT shares some of his own experiences growing up in the Mormon faith, and his work helping client heals from anti-LGBT religious training.

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Gay Therapist Reveals: The Top Three Tasks of LGBT Counseling

Task Three: Love Yourself More Than You Thought Possible

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Homophobia As Sexual Abuse

Even if a gay man has not been physically sexually abused, his experience growing up in a homophobic culture can be considered a form of sexual abuse.

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Gay Men: Bullying is Bad for the Brain

Researchers have discovered that brain chemistry is altered in adults who experienced childhood teasing from peers.

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