Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Each time we make that decision to be “discrete”, somewhere deep in our psyche we are reinforcing our belief that we are “less than”. 

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What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

Some gay men put up with a lot in their relationships.

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Should My Therapist Look Like Me? Well That Depends

Should My Therapist Look Like Me?  Well That Depends

“Whew, I am so glad that they didn’t assign me one of those white girl therapists out there. I don’t want to tell them all of my business and they won’t understand me anyway.”

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30 Ways to Combat Internalized Homophobia for Gay and Lesbian People

1. Find gay friends with whom you identify. 2. It takes a while: keep looking until you find them. 3. Don’t expect your parents to “get it”, but don’t tolerate rudeness or disrespect… 

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

This Gay Therapist Says: Blaming Your Parents: Not Good

Here’s my perspective on this.

Blaming parents: not good.

Avoiding the knowledge of how your parents impacted your life: also not good.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

LGBT Counseling: How We Heal From the Tough Stuff

Grieving is nature's built-in healing technique. It comes naturally to elephants and other mammals, but sometimes the big human brain gets in its way.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

What Happens in LGBT Couples Counseling?

What Happens in LGBT Couples Counseling?

If your partner agrees to go to couples counseling, then at some level, he or she is ready to learn more about how to take this leap into intimacy and vulnerability with you.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Struggling with anxious thoughts? If you aren't willing to have them, you will.

Many research studies have shown that LGBTQ people experience higher rates of anxiety. This is no surprise given what most of us have to deal with growing up.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Therapist Reveals: The Top Three Tasks of LGBT Counseling

Task Three: Love Yourself More Than You Thought Possible

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Homophobia As Sexual Abuse

Even if a gay man has not been physically sexually abused, his experience growing up in a homophobic culture can be considered a form of sexual abuse.

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LGBT People: Do You Work All the Time?

Life can feel hopeless and meaningless when all you do is work, eat, commute, and do your laundry.

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How LGBT People Talk to Themselves

Would I talk this way to my closest friend?

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Compassion Has a Bad Rap

Compassion for ourselves does not make us self centered. In fact it has the opposite effect. It makes us more empathic towards others.

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Gay Men: Bullying is Bad for the Brain

Researchers have discovered that brain chemistry is altered in adults who experienced childhood teasing from peers.

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This Gay Therapist Asks: "Gay Men, How Do You Cross Your Legs?"

The habitual self-editing can ultimately lead to an overall feeling of being tired, "less-than", and insecure.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

8 Tips to Improve Your Gay Relationship

If they look good in those pants, tell them. Don't keep it to yourself. It's not a state secret.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.