What Happens When I See Someone Hot?

What Happens When I See Someone Hot?

Typically when we see someone with a “perfect” body we feel:

lust,

followed by…

jealousy,

followed by…

feeling bad about our body or our life.

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Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Each time we make that decision to be “discrete”, somewhere deep in our psyche we are reinforcing our belief that we are “less than”. 

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The Shy Gay Guy

The Shy Gay Guy

Are you shy? If so, be forewarned: this is not an article about how to overcome shyness.

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Gay Loneliness and What To Do About It

Gay Loneliness and What To Do About It

Gay men are more lonely than straight men.

It pains me to write that. Gay men need positive inspiration and role models, not more negative statements.

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5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Gay Man

5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Gay Man

Unfortunately, feelings of loneliness and isolation are really common in the gay community despite the focus on love and relationships.

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Gay Men Coming Out: Version 2.0

Gay Men Coming Out:  Version 2.0

Olympic skater Adam Rippon may be the only person who is comfortable being his gay self everywhere. At least that what it looks like on TV.  I admire him for it. 

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Gay Men and Perfectionism

 Gay Men and Perfectionism

Being perfect is one way to manage being an outsider in your own family, school, city, or country.

Feeling like an outsider is a pretty typical experience for young gay people. And too often they can also feel like they are gross, disgusting, or sick. It can be quite humiliating to grow up gay.

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The Horror of Gay Men and Femininity

The Horror of Gay Men and Femininity

At its core, gay male homophobia is caused by a fear of the feminine.

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Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, and Transgender People: What If You Loved Yourself?

Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, and Transgender People: What If You Loved Yourself?

The concept of loving yourself has lost its power to inspire us because it was overused in cheesy popular media. 

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Gay Men: Are You Lazy?

When I hear the word “lazy’, I get very curious. Because essentially I don’t believe that laziness exists.

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30 Ways to Combat Internalized Homophobia for Gay and Lesbian People

1. Find gay friends with whom you identify. 2. It takes a while: keep looking until you find them. 3. Don’t expect your parents to “get it”, but don’t tolerate rudeness or disrespect… 

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In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

Tapping into your inner baby is a really useful tool in managing life’s challenges.

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This Gay Therapist Says: Blaming Your Parents: Not Good

Here’s my perspective on this.

Blaming parents: not good.

Avoiding the knowledge of how your parents impacted your life: also not good.

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Hot Gay Guys and Happiness

Desire is exciting but it is not the meaning of life.

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This is What Gay Men Are Hungry For

This is What Gay Men Are Hungry For

When you were in first grade and wanted to hold hands with the tall boy in your classroom, no one told you it was "cute."

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Gay Relationship Tip: The Secret to a Good Relationship

Here's what I think is the most important thing you can do to for your relationship: take care of yourself.

If you really and truly took care of yourself you would be an amazing boyfriend.

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Isolation and the LGBT Experience

Isolation and the LGBT Experience

You’ve heard it before. Modern life can be a lonely place.

Most people are struggling with this, but LGBT people can feel especially isolated.

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“I’m Gay and I’m Boring”

“I’m Gay and I’m Boring”

Some gay men have trouble figuring out what they love.

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Growing up a Gay Mormon

Growing up a Gay Mormon

Psychotherapist Wyatt Darling, MFT shares some of his own experiences growing up in the Mormon faith, and his work helping client heals from anti-LGBT religious training.

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Gay Guys: Do You Feel Alone?

Gay Guys: Do You Feel Alone?

In therapy, gay men learn to recover from an abusive relationship with their self.

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