Open Gay Relationships: Video Blog

Open Gay Relationships: Video Blog

If you are in an open relationship it's likely you'll need some help figuring it out.  Here's an 8-minute video with some tips.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Open Relationships:  What Works?

Over 70 men have shared their experiences in the comments section of this post.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

The biggest fear any human being has in a relationship is the fear that he'll be dropped.  You are playing with this powerful force when you open the relationship. Can you respect the power of this force?

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

How to Have an Open Gay Relationship That Doesn't Hurt

How to Have an Open Gay Relationship That Doesn't Hurt

I think gay men might be the most sexually creative people in the world. I don’t have any research data to support this, but have you heard of San Francisco’s Folsom Street Fair? It’s the world largest celebration of sexuality, and it was created by gay men.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Sexual secrets can be hot, but they also keep us separate and disconnected from people we love.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Doing something the same way over and over again can make anything dull.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

How Gay Male Relationships are Different

How Gay Male Relationships are Different

Fundamentally, the difference is that in gay male relationship both partners are governed by the hormone testosterone.

Ken Wilbur, the famous philosopher, calls testosterone the “fuck and kill hormone”.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Monogamy and Gay Men: The Radio Interview

Here's an audio recording of a radio interview I did with Randol White on Equality Radio, on the subject of monogamy and gay men.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Open Relationships Webinar Recording

In October I was interviewed by Annie Schuessler, the founder of the Bay Area Relationship Center, on the subject of "Open Relationships: What Works? "  Listen to a 45-minute audio recording of the webinar.  

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

Do you and your man know how to talk about difficult subjects and end up closer at the end of the conversation rather than further apart? If you open your relationship before you have developed this skill you could be headed for trouble.

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Feeling Jealous in an Open Relationship

Feeling Jealous in an Open Relationship

Feeling jealous in an open relationship is perfectly natural. It is perfectly natural to feel all sorts of things in any type of relationship.

The trick is not to limit the range of emotions we feel, rather decide what we want to do with the emotions when they come up. Because they will come up.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.