The Truth About Lesbian Bed Death

The Truth About Lesbian Bed Death

Members of the queer community are all too familiar with stereotypes. Whether it’s generalizations made through the media, or just plain ignorance, stereotypes tend to come up a lot in our community.

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Pride and Shame

Pride and Shame

Whoever came up with the concept of “Pride” when naming our Pride Marches and Pride Month was definitely clever.

As LGBTQ people we use the word pride a lot. But perhaps we don’t spend enough time understanding the opposite of pride: shame.

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Lesbians and Pride Month: Surviving the Dyke March, Exes and Other People’s Selfies

Lesbians and Pride Month:  Surviving the Dyke March, Exes and Other People’s Selfies

Pride, as it turns out, can be a lot like Christmas, Valentine’s Day or other emotionally loaded holidays: big expectations and a fear of missing out (FOMO), especially when everyone is on Facebook or other social media posting selfies of their fabulous brunches and parties.

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5 Strengths of Bisexuals

5 Strengths of Bisexuals

If you’ve read many articles or research on bisexuality and mental health, you’ve heard all about the “stresses” and “risk factors” for bi+ folks. 

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Lesbians and Casual Sex: Can We Leave the U-Haul Behind?

Lesbians and Casual Sex: Can We Leave the U-Haul Behind?

The joke about what lesbians bring on the second date—a U-Haul—might be a stereotype, but it speaks to a truth about lesbian dating: Many women move quickly to selecting a china pattern before they have even met each others’ cats.

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Gay Men Hiding

Gay Men Hiding

When you grow up telling the lie of “I’m not gay,” you sometimes become an adult who has a hard time knowing who he really is.

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What Happens When I See Someone Hot?

What Happens When I See Someone Hot?

Typically when we see someone with a “perfect” body we feel:

lust,

followed by…

jealousy,

followed by…

feeling bad about our body or our life.

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Open Gay Relationships: Video Blog

Open Gay Relationships: Video Blog

If you are in an open relationship it's likely you'll need some help figuring it out.  Here's an 8-minute video with some tips.

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Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Open Relationships:  What Works?

Over 70 men have shared their experiences in the comments section of this post.

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Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Each time we make that decision to be “discrete”, somewhere deep in our psyche we are reinforcing our belief that we are “less than”. 

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Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Sexual secrets can be hot, but they also keep us separate and disconnected from people we love.

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Gay Men in Mid-Life: Now What?

Gay Men in Mid-Life:  Now What?

You took the trip.  You ate the food.  You posted the photos.

And yet, you wonder: Is this all there is?

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Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Doing something the same way over and over again can make anything dull.

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What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement

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Gay Loneliness and What To Do About It

Gay Loneliness and What To Do About It

Gay men are more lonely than straight men.

It pains me to write that. Gay men need positive inspiration and role models, not more negative statements.

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How Gay Male Relationships are Different

How Gay Male Relationships are Different

Fundamentally, the difference is that in gay male relationship both partners are governed by the hormone testosterone.

Ken Wilbur, the famous philosopher, calls testosterone the “fuck and kill hormone”.

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What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

Some gay men put up with a lot in their relationships.

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Gay Men and Affairs: How to Recover

Gay Men and Affairs: How to Recover

Affairs and infidelity are more painful than ever. Why?

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5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Gay Man

5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Gay Man

Unfortunately, feelings of loneliness and isolation are really common in the gay community despite the focus on love and relationships.

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Gay Men Coming Out: Version 2.0

Gay Men Coming Out:  Version 2.0

Olympic skater Adam Rippon may be the only person who is comfortable being his gay self everywhere. At least that what it looks like on TV.  I admire him for it. 

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