Do You Choose Mean Gay Guys?

Do You Choose Mean Gay Guys?

We often are drawn to unkind people because our parents weren’t so kind to us.  In other words, they feel familiar.

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6 Things You Can Learn From Kinky LGBTQ Couples

6 Things You Can Learn From Kinky LGBTQ Couples

Not everyone is kinky. But kinky people know a lot about sex, and we can all learn from some of their best practices.

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Getting Depressed Around the Holidays

Getting Depressed Around the Holidays

It sucks, especially when the commercials make it look like everyone else is having a good time.

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How To Keep LGBTQ Relationships Going After the Honeymoon

How To Keep LGBTQ Relationships Going After the Honeymoon

According to long-range studies, the romantic obsession stage only lasts an average of about two years.

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3 Skills for Validating Your Partner’s Feelings

3 Skills for Validating Your Partner’s Feelings

To reconnect with your partner, there are three essential listening skills that can help you both feel heard and understood.

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Should My LGBTQ Therapist Look Like Me? Well That Depends

Should My LGBTQ Therapist Look Like Me?  Well That Depends

“Whew, I am so glad that they didn’t assign me one of those white girl therapists out there. I don’t want to tell them all of my business and they won’t understand me anyway.”

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Gay Men, Texting, and 93% of Communication

Gay Men, Texting, and 93% of Communication

93% of communication is through your facial expression and tone of voice.

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How To Spice Up a Gay Relationship: Video Blog

How To Spice Up a Gay Relationship: Video Blog

This 4-minute video blog will help you realize that your sexual fantasies aren't that weird.

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Why Gay Men Love Sex

Why Gay Men Love Sex

Orgasm may be one of the only times we are fully present in the moment.

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The Horror of Gay Men and Femininity

The Horror of Gay Men and Femininity

At its core, gay male homophobia is caused by a fear of the feminine.

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Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, and Transgender People: What If You Loved Yourself?

Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, and Transgender People: What If You Loved Yourself?

The concept of loving yourself has lost its power to inspire us because it was overused in cheesy popular media. 

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In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

Tapping into your inner baby is a really useful tool in managing life’s challenges.

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This Gay Therapist Says: Blaming Your Parents: Not Good

This Gay Therapist Says: Blaming Your Parents:  Not Good

Here’s my perspective on this.

Blaming parents: not good.

Avoiding the knowledge of how your parents impacted your life: also not good.

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How Gay and Lesbian Couples Can Stop Fighting

How Gay and Lesbian Couples Can Stop Fighting

When you fight with your partner it can feel like he or she is the enemy.

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Gay Open Relationships Webinar Recording

 Gay Open Relationships Webinar Recording

In October I was interviewed by Annie Schuessler, the founder of the Bay Area Relationship Center, on the subject of "Open Relationships: What Works? "  Listen to a 45-minute audio recording of the webinar.  

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Sex Addiction in the Digital Age: What's Too Much?

Sex Addiction in the Digital Age:  What's Too Much?

It’s getting easier to get laid. 

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What Happens in LGBTQ Couples Counseling?

What Happens in LGBTQ Couples Counseling?

If your partner agrees to go to couples counseling, then at some level, he or she is ready to learn more about how to take this leap into intimacy and vulnerability with you.

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Why This Gay Therapist Says: “Stop Worrying About Being Selfish”

Why This Gay Therapist Says: “Stop Worrying About Being Selfish”

“I don’t want to be selfish.”

When I hear this statement in my psychotherapy practice, I get suspicious.

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“I’m Gay and I’m Boring”

“I’m Gay and I’m Boring”

Some gay men have trouble figuring out what they love.

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Struggling with anxious thoughts? If you aren't willing to have them, you will.

Struggling with anxious thoughts? If you aren't willing to have them, you will.

Many research studies have shown that LGBTQ people experience higher rates of anxiety. This is no surprise given what most of us have to deal with growing up.

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