Gay Men Losing Their Mothers

Gay Men Losing Their Mothers

Gay men often have a special relationship with their mothers. Typically mothers are the first or only person to accept their son’s more “feminine” interests. She might have provided a place for you to develop the real you, rather than the false self that needed to butch it up at school.

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How Gay Couples Can Repair After an Affair

How Gay Couples Can Repair After an Affair

Here's the bottom line: we all want to be heard. It may be the most important experience we are seeking in a relationship. So relationship recovery is a listening process.

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Gay Men: Are You Lazy?

Gay Men: Are You Lazy?

When I hear the word “lazy’, I get very curious. Because essentially I don’t believe that laziness exists.

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30 Ways to Combat Internalized Homophobia for Gay and Lesbian People

30 Ways to Combat Internalized Homophobia for Gay and Lesbian People

1. Find gay friends with whom you identify. 2. It takes a while: keep looking until you find them. 3. Don’t expect your parents to “get it”, but don’t tolerate rudeness or disrespect… 

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Monogamy and Gay Men: The Radio Interview

Monogamy and Gay Men: The Radio Interview

Here's an audio recording of a radio interview I did with Randol White on Equality Radio, on the subject of monogamy and gay men.

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Hot Gay Guys and Happiness

Hot Gay Guys and Happiness

Desire is exciting but it is not the meaning of life.

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This is What Gay Men Are Hungry For

This is What Gay Men Are Hungry For

When you were in first grade and wanted to hold hands with the tall boy in your classroom, no one told you it was "cute."

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How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

Do you and your man know how to talk about difficult subjects and end up closer at the end of the conversation rather than further apart? If you open your relationship before you have developed this skill you could be headed for trouble.

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My Gay Boyfriend is on Manhunt: Does That Mean He's Cheating?

My Gay Boyfriend is on Manhunt:  Does That Mean He's Cheating?

There is no aspect of gay culture that supports hurting someone you love.

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LGBTQ Relationship Tip: The Secret to a Good Relationship

LGBTQ Relationship Tip: The Secret to a Good Relationship

Here's what I think is the most important thing you can do to for your relationship: take care of yourself.

If you really and truly took care of yourself you would be an amazing boyfriend.

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Gay Marriage Advice: How To Reduce Those Little Arguments about "Nothing"

Gay Marriage Advice: How To Reduce Those Little Arguments about "Nothing"

If you look under the surface of every little fight, no matter what the topic, you will find that ultimately they are about some basic core fear that all humans hold.

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Therapy for LGBT People: How We Heal From the Tough Stuff

Therapy for LGBT People: How We Heal From the Tough Stuff

Grieving is nature's built-in healing technique. It comes naturally to elephants and other mammals, but sometimes the big human brain gets in its way.

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Gay Therapist Reveals: The Top Three Tasks of LGBT Counseling

Gay Therapist Reveals: The Top Three Tasks of LGBT Counseling

Task Three: Love Yourself More Than You Thought Possible

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How to Talk About the Tough Issues in Your LGBT Relationship

How to Talk About the Tough Issues in Your LGBT Relationship

What we really want most from our partners is to be heard.

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Seeing the "Boy" in Your Gay Boyfriend

Seeing the "Boy" in Your Gay Boyfriend

All of us retain our experiences as children throughout our lives. And when we are fighting with our boyfriends there's a good chance that our inner five-year-old vulnerabilities have been triggered.

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How to Sustain a Gay Relationship

How to Sustain a Gay Relationship

Ultimately what keeps long term relationships strong is paying attention to the emotional bond between you.

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How To Grow Gay Self-Esteem

How To Grow Gay Self-Esteem

Here's one thing I've noticed in my work as a psychotherapist. You are really mean.

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Ending an Unhealthy LGBT Relationship

Ending an Unhealthy LGBT Relationship

Here are some actions, thoughts, and questions that can help as you try to let go and move forward.

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Secrets of the Gay Inner Critic

Secrets of the Gay Inner Critic

There is an epidemic of unworthiness in our culture. Deep inside so many people feel unlovable.

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Gay Men as Outsiders

Gay Men as Outsiders

One of the most enduring societal beliefs about gay men is that they will “grow old alone."

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The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.