Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Each time we make that decision to be “discrete”, somewhere deep in our psyche we are reinforcing our belief that we are “less than”. 

Read More

Gay Men Coming Out: Version 2.0

Gay Men Coming Out:  Version 2.0

Olympic skater Adam Rippon may be the only person who is comfortable being his gay self everywhere. At least that what it looks like on TV.  I admire him for it. 

Read More
Comment

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, and Transgender People: What If You Loved Yourself?

Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, and Transgender People: What If You Loved Yourself?

The concept of loving yourself has lost its power to inspire us because it was overused in cheesy popular media. 

Read More
Comment

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Men: Are You Lazy?

When I hear the word “lazy’, I get very curious. Because essentially I don’t believe that laziness exists.

Read More
2 Comments

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

30 Ways to Combat Internalized Homophobia for Gay and Lesbian People

1. Find gay friends with whom you identify. 2. It takes a while: keep looking until you find them. 3. Don’t expect your parents to “get it”, but don’t tolerate rudeness or disrespect… 

Read More
2 Comments

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

This is What Gay Men Are Hungry For

This is What Gay Men Are Hungry For

When you were in first grade and wanted to hold hands with the tall boy in your classroom, no one told you it was "cute."

Read More
8 Comments

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

Do you and your man know how to talk about difficult subjects and end up closer at the end of the conversation rather than further apart? If you open your relationship before you have developed this skill you could be headed for trouble.

Read More

“I’m Gay and I’m Boring”

“I’m Gay and I’m Boring”

Some gay men have trouble figuring out what they love.

Read More
3 Comments

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Growing up a Gay Mormon

Growing up a Gay Mormon

Psychotherapist Wyatt Darling, MFT shares some of his own experiences growing up in the Mormon faith, and his work helping client heals from anti-LGBT religious training.

Read More
Comment

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Guys: Do You Feel Alone?

Gay Guys: Do You Feel Alone?

In therapy, gay men learn to recover from an abusive relationship with their self.

Read More
3 Comments

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Homophobia As Sexual Abuse

Even if a gay man has not been physically sexually abused, his experience growing up in a homophobic culture can be considered a form of sexual abuse.

Read More

This is Why Coming Out is Important (Even After You’ve Come Out)

This is Why Coming Out is Important (Even After You’ve Come Out)

Why do you always hear that it’s important to come out?

The reason that it is very hard to love yourself fully when you hide. And it’s very hard to love others when you don’t love yourself. Therefore, the closet is lonely. No one loves you there.

Read More
Comment

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

The Myth of “Hitting Bottom”

The Myth of “Hitting Bottom”

In some cases, including mine, “the bottom” might have been death. 

Read More
Comment

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Men as Outsiders

Gay Men as Outsiders

One of the most enduring societal beliefs about gay men is that they will “grow old alone."

Read More
Comment

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.

Gay Men: Bullying is Bad for the Brain

Researchers have discovered that brain chemistry is altered in adults who experienced childhood teasing from peers.

Read More

This Gay Therapist Asks: "Gay Men, How Do You Cross Your Legs?"

The habitual self-editing can ultimately lead to an overall feeling of being tired, "less-than", and insecure.

Read More
2 Comments

The information on this blog is provided for general informational purposes only and no psychotherapist-client relationship is formed nor should any such relationship be implied. The suggestions offered in this blog are just one perspective of many approaches to dealing with problems and should not be your only source when making life decisions. This website is not intended to replace professional mental health treatment.