Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Open Relationships:  What Works?

Over 70 men have shared their experiences in the comments section of this post.

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I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

The biggest fear any human being has in a relationship is the fear that he'll be dropped.  You are playing with this powerful force when you open the relationship. Can you respect the power of this force?

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Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Doing something the same way over and over again can make anything dull.

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What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement

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How Gay Male Relationships are Different

How Gay Male Relationships are Different

Fundamentally, the difference is that in gay male relationship both partners are governed by the hormone testosterone.

Ken Wilbur, the famous philosopher, calls testosterone the “fuck and kill hormone”.

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How Gay Couples Can Repair After an Affair

How Gay Couples Can Repair After an Affair

Here's the bottom line: we all want to be heard. It may be the most important experience we are seeking in a relationship. So relationship recovery is a listening process.

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What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

Some gay men put up with a lot in their relationships.

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Gay Men and Affairs: How to Recover

Gay Men and Affairs: How to Recover

Affairs and infidelity are more painful than ever. Why?

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How To Keep A Gay Relationship Going After the Honeymoon

How To Keep A Gay Relationship Going After the Honeymoon

According to long-range studies, the romantic obsession stage only lasts an average of about two years.

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Gay Men, Texting, and 93% of Communication

Gay Men, Texting, and 93% of Communication

93% of communication is through your facial expression and tone of voice.

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Can A Gay Relationship Survive an Affair? A Video Blog

Can A Gay Relationship Survive an Affair?  A Video Blog

Recovery from an affair is a lot of work. But it happens every day at the Gay Therapy Center. See how in this 5-minute video.

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Gay Men Being Needy

Gay Men Being Needy

If a man appears dependent or needy, then he’s a fag. It’s considered gross.

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Monogamy and Gay Men: The Radio Interview

Here's an audio recording of a radio interview I did with Randol White on Equality Radio, on the subject of monogamy and gay men.

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In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

In Defense of Gay and Lesbian Baby Talk

Tapping into your inner baby is a really useful tool in managing life’s challenges.

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How Gay and Lesbian Couples Can Stop Fighting

When you fight with your partner it can feel like he or she is the enemy.

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Does Your Gay Boyfriend Ignore You?

Does Your Gay Boyfriend Ignore You?

Here are the six most dangerous words to describe a gay relationship:

“We don’t talk about our relationship”.

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How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

How to Decide to Have an Open Gay Relationship

Do you and your man know how to talk about difficult subjects and end up closer at the end of the conversation rather than further apart? If you open your relationship before you have developed this skill you could be headed for trouble.

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Video Blog: How to Reduce Fights in Your Gay Relationship

Video Blog: How to Reduce Fights in Your Gay Relationship

In this 6-minute video, Adam D. Blum, MFT, the Founder of the Gay Therapy Center, reveals how to reduce fights with your partner by understanding what is really going on beneath the surface of the fight.

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My Gay Boyfriend is on Manhunt: Does That Mean He's Cheating?

There is no aspect of gay culture that supports hurting someone you love.

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Gay Relationship Tip: The Secret to a Good Relationship

Here's what I think is the most important thing you can do to for your relationship: take care of yourself.

If you really and truly took care of yourself you would be an amazing boyfriend.

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