What Happens When I See Someone Hot?

What Happens When I See Someone Hot?

Typically when we see someone with a “perfect” body we feel:

lust,

followed by…

jealousy,

followed by…

feeling bad about our body or our life.

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Open Gay Relationships: Video Blog

Open Gay Relationships: Video Blog

If you are in an open relationship it's likely you'll need some help figuring it out.  Here's an 8-minute video with some tips.

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Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Open Relationships:  What Works?

Over 70 men have shared their experiences in the comments section of this post.

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Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Coming Out as a Gay Man, Lesbian, or Bisexual…Again and Again and Again

Each time we make that decision to be “discrete”, somewhere deep in our psyche we are reinforcing our belief that we are “less than”. 

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I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

I Want An Open Gay Relationship and He Doesn’t

The biggest fear any human being has in a relationship is the fear that he'll be dropped.  You are playing with this powerful force when you open the relationship. Can you respect the power of this force?

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How to Have an Open Gay Relationship That Doesn't Hurt

How to Have an Open Gay Relationship That Doesn't Hurt

I think gay men might be the most sexually creative people in the world. I don’t have any research data to support this, but have you heard of San Francisco’s Folsom Street Fair? It’s the world largest celebration of sexuality, and it was created by gay men.

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Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Sexual secrets can be hot, but they also keep us separate and disconnected from people we love.

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Gay Men in Mid-Life: Now What?

Gay Men in Mid-Life:  Now What?

You took the trip.  You ate the food.  You posted the photos.

And yet, you wonder: Is this all there is?

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The Shy Gay Guy

The Shy Gay Guy

Are you shy? If so, be forewarned: this is not an article about how to overcome shyness.

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Do You Choose Mean Gay Guys?

Do You Choose Mean Gay Guys?

We often are drawn to unkind people because our parents weren’t so kind to us.  In other words, they feel familiar.

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Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Gay Men in Monogamous Relationships: What Works?

Doing something the same way over and over again can make anything dull.

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What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

What Keeps Sex Exciting in Long Term LGBTQ Relationships?

Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement

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Gay Loneliness and What To Do About It

Gay Loneliness and What To Do About It

Gay men are more lonely than straight men.

It pains me to write that. Gay men need positive inspiration and role models, not more negative statements.

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How Gay Male Relationships are Different

How Gay Male Relationships are Different

Fundamentally, the difference is that in gay male relationship both partners are governed by the hormone testosterone.

Ken Wilbur, the famous philosopher, calls testosterone the “fuck and kill hormone”.

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6 Things You Can Learn From Kinky LGBTQ Couples

6 Things You Can Learn From Kinky LGBTQ Couples

Not everyone is kinky. But kinky people know a lot about sex, and we can all learn from some of their best practices.

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How Gay Couples Can Repair After an Affair

How Gay Couples Can Repair After an Affair

Here's the bottom line: we all want to be heard. It may be the most important experience we are seeking in a relationship. So relationship recovery is a listening process.

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What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship

Some gay men put up with a lot in their relationships.

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Getting Depressed Around the Holidays

Getting Depressed Around the Holidays

It sucks, especially when the commercials make it look like everyone else is having a good time.

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Gay Men and Affairs: How to Recover

Gay Men and Affairs: How to Recover

Affairs and infidelity are more painful than ever. Why?

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5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Gay Man

5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Gay Man

Unfortunately, feelings of loneliness and isolation are really common in the gay community despite the focus on love and relationships.

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