What Is It About Gay Men and Crystal Meth?

What Is It About Gay Men and Crystal Meth?

Meth has long been associated with gay men. The lost inhibitions induced by the drug are in such contradiction to the lifetime of suppression that most gay men have to adopt, that the appeal is magnetic. 

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So the guy you like just told you he’s HIV-positive — Now what?

So the guy you like just told you he’s HIV-positive — Now what?

You’re on cloud nine. He’s hot. The chemistry is right. The conversation flows. There’s nothing about him that annoys you. It’s so rare to find a mate with that perfect mix that you wonder what the catch is. Then–wham!–he tells you he’s HIV-positive.

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How Gay Male Relationships are Different

How Gay Male Relationships are Different

Fundamentally, the difference is that in gay male relationship both partners are governed by the hormone testosterone.

Ken Wilbur, the famous philosopher, calls testosterone the “fuck and kill hormone”.

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Queer Identity: Finding a Label (or not) and Possibly, a Tribe

Queer Identity: Finding a Label (or not) and Possibly, a Tribe

How do you identify yourself?

Lesbian, dyke, gay, bisexual?

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Gay Midlife Crisis: It’s a Thing

Gay Midlife Crisis: It’s a Thing

Therapists don’t often share their own life stories. Our focus is on you, not us. But sometimes what we’ve learned from our personal challenges can inspire our clients.

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Do You Want More Gay Sex Than Your Partner?

Do You Want More Gay Sex Than Your Partner?

In a long term relationship it’s likely that one of you will want sex more frequently than the other. This can create uncomfortable conflicts. Here are some ideas that can help you manage your differences.

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The Myth of “Hitting Bottom”

The Myth of “Hitting Bottom”

In some cases, including mine, “the bottom” might have been death. 

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Lesbian Couples Navigating Parenthood Together

Lesbian Couples Navigating Parenthood Together

Ah, the pitter-patter of little feet.

Whether or not to have children is arguably one of the biggest decisions any adult ever makes, but with lesbian couples, the questions multiply: Who will give birth? Who will provide the sperm – a friend, relative or a sperm bank?

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This is Why Coming Out is Important (Even After You’ve Come Out)

This is Why Coming Out is Important (Even After You’ve Come Out)

Why do you always hear that it’s important to come out?

The reason that it is very hard to love yourself fully when you hide. And it’s very hard to love others when you don’t love yourself. Therefore, the closet is lonely. No one loves you there.

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Video Blog: How to Reduce Fights With Your Partner

Video Blog: How to Reduce Fights With Your Partner

In this 6-minute video, Adam D. Blum, MFT, the Founder of the Gay Therapy Center, reveals how to reduce fights with your partner by understanding what is really going on beneath the surface of the fight.

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How to Have an Open Gay Relationship That Doesn't Hurt

How to Have an Open Gay Relationship That Doesn't Hurt

I think gay men might be the most sexually creative people in the world. I don’t have any research data to support this, but have you heard of San Francisco’s Folsom Street Fair? It’s the world largest celebration of sexuality, and it was created by gay men.

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When Is Sex Out of Control?

When Is Sex Out of Control?

One key thing to remember is that out of control or addictive sexual behaviors aren't actually about sex.

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3 Skills for Validating Your Partner’s Feelings

3 Skills for Validating Your Partner’s Feelings

To reconnect with your partner, there are three essential listening skills that can help you both feel heard and understood.

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Why Do We Fight Over Dumb Stuff?

Why Do We Fight Over Dumb Stuff?

When your partner shouts:

“You didn’t text me that you’d be late!”

The translation is:

“I feel abandoned and alone.”

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Lesbians and Casual Sex: Can We Leave the U-Haul Behind?

Lesbians and Casual Sex: Can We Leave the U-Haul Behind?

The joke about what lesbians bring on the second date—a U-Haul—might be a stereotype, but it speaks to a truth about lesbian dating: Many women move quickly to selecting a china pattern before they have even met each others’ cats.

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The Fear of Bisexuality

Bisexuality doesn’t get as much attention as other sexual orientations. Even lesbian and gay people don’t often think about what it is like to be bisexual.

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Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Does “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Work in Open Gay Relationships?

Sexual secrets can be hot, but they also keep us separate and disconnected from people we love.

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Lesbians and Pride Month: Surviving the Dyke March, Exes and Other People’s Selfies

Lesbians and Pride Month:  Surviving the Dyke March, Exes and Other People’s Selfies

Pride, as it turns out, can be a lot like Christmas, Valentine’s Day or other emotionally loaded holidays: big expectations and a fear of missing out (FOMO), especially when everyone is on Facebook or other social media posting selfies of their fabulous brunches and parties.

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On Orlando, Queer Sanctuaries, and What You Can Do

On Orlando, Queer Sanctuaries, and What You Can Do

The massacre confirmed our fears that with all the strides and gains and laws and protections that we have fought for, there are people who don’t like us, there are people who think we are bad, there are people who hate us and want us dead. This is not easy to hold as a therapist or as a queer person.

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Recovery from Anti-LGBTQ Religion

Recovery from Anti-LGBTQ Religion

Psychotherapist Wyatt Darling, MFT shares some of his own experiences growing up in the Mormon faith, and his work helping client heals from anti-LGBT religious training.

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